Sex is Good but Love is Better

I want to start by saying thank you for taking the time to read this blog.  I am so encouraged to hear how God is able to use it to encourage others.  My prayer for every entry is for you to see that my words are inspired by a heart that Jesus Christ has completely transformed.  I don't look down on anyone who is in that dark place right now, and who couldn't feel more distant from the Lord because I know the feeling.  It is by the Grace of God that my heart was changed, and I was given a new life.  God has laid it on my heart for a while to write about this, but I will admit that I was kind of nervous to do so.  Obedience brings blessings, and I hope that the Lord is able to speak to you through this entry.

The topic I am going to talk about is pre-marital sex, and I know when some people hear that they automatically want to let it go one ear and out the other.  Before I was a believer that was the issue that I couldn't understand.  I used to mock people who saved theirselves for marriage before I was a believer.  It is the truth.  The first thing guys ask me now when they know how important my Faith is to me is, "So you are telling me you don't have sex?" We live in a sex-driven culture.  Our culture has desensitized sex so much that is has become a sense of recreation.  My eyes are opened to how corrupt our culture is now.  All the movies, music, and entertainment is all about sexuality.  No wonder I was so blinded by the Truth before I knew the Lord.   I am telling you right now, as a born-again Christian, my past with participating in sex before marriage is one of my biggest regrets.  I now understand the importance of saving myself.  Once I made that decision to have sex it changed everything.  I lost my purity, and opened up a temptaion that might be the hardest to overcome.  The shame and guilt I feel for how I selfishly treated women is something that I have not gotten over so it is hard for me to write about it right now.  If you are reading this, and I have hurt you then I can't express to you enough how sorry I am.  I was completely oblivious of the hurt I was causing in your life as well as mine. 

It breaks my heart to know that I didn't save myself for the woman that I will spend the rest of my life with.  It breaks my heart that our honeymoon will not be as special as it could have been if I were to wait for her because she would have been beyond worth it.  Something that is powerful enough to create a living, feeling, and breathing life is something I did just to seek some sense of pleasure.  My heart was so hardened to what I was doing.  Please take this to heart when you hear the Truth about how God intended for us to carry out a Godly relationship.  I know for me personally it is hard to pick out a hand full of people who have biblical standings on pre-marital sex. 

We are all one being.  We can't seperate our spiritual side with a flesh side.  They both go hand in had, and you can't bounce back and forth between the two and expect to have a healthy spiritual life.  We either thrive spirtually and are able to overcome the desires of our flesh, or we can give into the desires of our flesh and we will deprive ourselves spiritually.  If you are taking part in sex before marriage and you are trying to justify it then you are causing one of God's greatest gifts to become very destructive.  God intends for us to do things a certain way for a reason.  Don't let the ways of this would strip away the significance of something that God can make mean so much more. 

"Or do you now know that he who is joined to a prostitue becomes one body with her?  For, as it is written, The Two will become one flesh.  But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him.  Flee from sexual immorality.  Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexual immoral person sins against his own body."  - 1 Corinthians 6:16-18

These verses give a powerful representation for how serious sexual immorality is.  When you are joined with another partner then you two become one flesh and you will leave a piece of yourself each time.  Sexual immorality is the only sin that a person sins against their own body.  Don't desensitize the power of sex.  It can be an amazing thing when it is done in a way that God intended.  Don't drag God's design through the mud.  He wants the best for us, and allow God to open your eyes and change your heart.  I didn't come to this realization on my own.  By surrendering my life to Christ I was given understanding and a new heart.  A life viewed through God's eyes is so much more beautiful and meaningful.  God wants us to live our lives to its full potential, and that includes the power of sex with your true love who God unites in Holy matrimony.  Don't expect to do things in an imperfect way and expect to get perfect results.  God is the perfector so allow him to perfect you.  Our God is a God of mercy.  Seek the Lord for every area of your life, and don't get discouraged if you are in a situation where you feel hopeless.  I pray that you are convicted through this, and through that conviction you will surrender this area of your life to the Lord.  "Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God."  -Matthew 5:8   Allow God to give you a pure heart because you will see him. 

Lord there is no greater miracle than the power you have to deliever someone from death and to give them life.  Thank you so much for giving me life.  Lord I pray that I see sexual immorality for what it is, and how destrucitve it can be to a heart that you designed to be a certain way. Allow my heart to work the way you designed it to.  Thank you for the amazing gift of being able to experience love with another person.  I know a love done the way you intended will not disappoint or seperate.  True Love is only found through the creator of Love, and that is you Lord.  Amen.

Blessings,

Matt